Unleash the power of forgiveness and move on!

Throughout out this website, you will continually read about the power of forgiveness.  Here I want to unpack that famous instruction, “forgive and move on”.

“In order for forgiveness to happen, something has to die.  If you make a choice to forgive, you have to face the pain.  You simply have to hurt.”  Brene Brown

“If your going to ask someone to forgive you, first of all you better be sure you have forgiven yourself.  If you can’t forgive you, how on earth can they”  Glynn Hughes.

The last prayer Jesus made is quoted by Luke in the new testament.  Luke 23: 34 While they were nailing Jesus to the cross, he prayed over and over, “Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they’re doing.”  He wasn’t just praying in that moment.

As always everything he did and said was timeless and eternal.  He was praying for you and me today, just as much as the Roman soldier who drove in the nails.  Notice how in this modern-day version of the bible (The Passion Translation) Jesus prayed over and over?  I haven’t seen that recorded before.  Also, it was one of the last things he said as a man, in fact he interacted with us just once more (his last words spoken, were to the father).

Life and Death!

Luke 23:40 The criminal hanging on the other cross rebuked the man, saying, “Don’t you fear God? You’re about to die! 41 We deserve to be condemned, for we’re just being repaid for what we’ve done. But this man—he’s done nothing wrong!” 42 Then he said, “I beg of you, my Lord Jesus, show me grace and take me with you into your everlasting kingdom!” 43 Jesus responded, “I promise you—this very day you will enter paradise with me.” and in finally verse 46 Then Jesus cried out with a loud voice, “Father, I surrender my Spirit into your hands.”[And he took his last breath and died.

So, let’s imagine as Jesus left his children on earth for at least 2000 years the importance of these three statements.  He demonstrated how to live in peace through forgiveness.  Then how we can enter Heaven through repentance and prayer.  Finally, he showed us how to die, he surrendered his spirit to God.

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Hopefully you are a way off the last act, and you can forget about that for now.  Do though note the significance of Jesus’ penultimate statement and search your heart for alignment with that.

Let’s address that pain!

What we are addressing here though is Jesus emphasis on forgiveness through His last request (in other words, prayer) of God on our behalf before his death.  Why would Jesus use up his rapidly diminishing conscious energy to pray repeatedly “Father, forgive them for they don’t know what they’re doing.”  I’ll tell you why; the cross of Jesus was the perfect place to emphasise the power of forgiveness indeed the absolute necessity of it to live a peaceful life.

Take this easy test, list the situations in your life that you still feel bitter towards.  Then, ask yourself; have you sought out the person you consider to be central to the issue and had forgiveness centered dialogue with them.  If you have, the fact that they qualified for this test by being bitter in your thoughts, means one or both of you failed to forgive.

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Maybe you could try this when you were clearly the aggrieved one.  I speak from experience again here.  When my father beat me whilst I was semi-comatose through what I now recognise as a pseudo suicide attempt. It took me decades to address.  Eventually I asked for forgiveness for what I did that made him want to do that.  Say you partner has cheated on you, or your colleague “has grassed you up” with no good reason to the boss.  A close friend has stolen from you.  whatever the grievous crime, ask them what YOU did that made them behave that way. Ask them can they forgive you and move on.  Its counter intuitive I know but put down your hurt and pride.  Go on try it, you really will witness the power of forgiveness like you have not seen before.

Family is a great thing, I have a gorgeous wife and six wonderful children, and I love spending time with them all. I’m know though that they get a bit exasperated with me.  Because I’m always chasing after forgiveness, their forgiveness of me and mine of them.  Let me tell you why? Life just won’t work without it.  Any kind of relationship that harbours unforgiveness

will return to a mutilated version of the original argument and end in failure.  Here you can delve deeper into family healing issues when family hurts you

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